BEHOLD, THE SOLUTION TO A PERFECT LIFE!

We will die. Death is certain, so far, and it's the only thing that truly scares me. It's the ultimate form of change, which might be why change can be so frightening.

Maybe that's what leads us to pursue the perfect life.

Question time:
Did you know that perfect is subjective and not the same for any two people?

When has your life felt perfect? I'd wager when you were happy, in the moment, and not when you were stressed, worrying about the past or future.

Stress is what makes life difficult and makes us unhappy. An unhappy life is difficult.

Life is easy.

Happiness is easy.

A life filled with happiness is easy to obtain. You simply have to admit and/or find what makes you happy and actually do those things.

So if you exist in a perfect life, a perfect moment, because you're happy, then wouldn't it stand to reason that being happy creates a perfect life?

BEHOLD, THE SOLUTION TO A PERFECT LIFE: HAPPINESS!

CHOOSE THE THINGS THAT MAKE YOU HAPPY, CHOOSE THE THINGS THAT FEED YOU! LET GO OF THE THINGS THAT MAKE YOU UNHAPPY, LET GO OF THE THINGS THAT STARVE YOU!

NOURISH YOUR LIFE.

Also: the life that actually makes you happy, the one you really need, might not be the life you are told you want or conditioned to think you want - billionaire, famous, Kanye West (who's a broke as sombitch! He's $53 MILLION in debt! You are currently, at the absolute least, $53 MILLION more wealthy than Kanye west. So use that as some perspective.)

Old school advice that's still solid: The things we want might not be the things we need. Need vs Want. Marinate on that for now as we continue.

On to the advice:

Your job makes you mad? Stop doing it and find one that makes you happy or is filled with people who make you happy. You can weather a who cares profession if you've got a solid crew in the fight with you. If you can't get a fulfilling profession, make it a fulfilling at-work social experience. It's fun to talk over beers about how backassward those TPS reports are, am I right? (office space reference, but you probably knew that)

Unhappy relationships? End them. There are people out there who love you, even if you haven't met them yet. You sad with your spouse? Friends? Family? You don't need them. They bring you down? You don't need them.

You have people who bring you up and love and support you and are excited when you are successful? Those are your people. Those are the relationships that matter. They feed you (sometimes literally #lexi4dayz #teamheidi).

Want to be healthier and/or look gewd but hate the gym? Don't go. Find something else. If you want to get in shape or have a goal for your physical body, then go try a whole boat-load of shit. Try every activity you can get your hands on until you find one that makes you happy. There is most definitely something for you in the exercise vein. Most of the time we don't just fall in to this. You have to do the leg work, pun not intended but welcome, and find the exercise that is right for you, or find a crew you can get swoll with. Swoll crew? That sounds disgusting. I like it.

Worried about money because rent sucks? Find a cheaper place and/or move in with people you actually like and/or get more roommates! Easy as pie.

Worried about money because you're worried about money? That's dumb! It is. I'm not sorry. Money will buy you plenty of things that can lead to your happiness, but money itself won't make you happy. The act of obtaining said cash can most definitely make you happy, but that is more having the job that can make you happy than it is the search for money! (see above)

Money is simply exchanged for goods and services, a means to assist in survival in modern culture. The saying money can't buy you happiness should be taken as literally as possible. Repeat then see above: Get a job that makes you happy or a crew at work who makes you happy so you can make the money to eat and be sheltered. Moving on.

Stress will kill you. Take two, Player. Stress will kill you. We suck as a species because of our stress, which is something that we create. We don't have the threat of being eaten, and a large portion of us have dwellings that keep us safe from the elements, as well as some form of food to keep us alive. On the average, our natural needs are met: FOOD, SHELTER and SAFETY. There's no need to stress about those things.

Community is harder, but not much if we allow ourselves to surround ourselves with people who hold us up and whom we hold up as well (see above).

We're beautiful because of our work and love and minds and hearts and diligence and general way of improving the things we are and working toward the things we wish to be.

We are social creatures who want and need to be with like-minded humans. Find those humans who make you happy and whom you make happy (see above).

We suck because of our stress. Our lives are cut short because, almost as a rule, we focus on things that we are told we need. (see above) House, money, even love. We are told we need these things and more, and in a very specific way, but we are not told that it's not the same for everyone!

I remember the feeling when I finally saw the training that goes on through media and general education. The training that tells us who we are supposed to be.

Spoiler alert: that training, those commercials, they don't know who the fuck you are even a little bit!

You know the commercials, the speech the blah blah that we are eating, feeding and generally forcing in to the lives of ours and others all the live long day and night. You know what it looks like, you pin it, retweet it, repeat it, repost it and share it. You know exactly what I'm talking about. You know it. It doesn't know you. At all! At all at all!

You know it. You know you know it. It tastes like asphalt, prescriptions, condos, cars, clothes and a very specific version of love and happyness (the Y is there on purpose to be both poignant and pretentious).

If you've ever looked at your life and wondered what was missing than you're probably focusing on the things that aren't that important to you.

There's nothing wrong with the pursuit of that "why." But if you feel like you've never obtained an answer to that "why," then I would suggest looking for a different cue to your answer. (see above)

You're beautiful. You are good and you have the ability to be happy if you don't mind changing the things that make you unhappy. (see above)

Change is scary. But change can lead to the best you, whomever that might be.

There's a whole thing I've got on open mindedness and acceptance. That's another post. It'll help you in your search for the things that make you happy, but again, that's for another time. If you need a refresher then do yourself a favor and see above.

Have the best day you've ever had.